"Emily's" Wedding

This past weekend I went to my former roommate "Emily's" wedding.  I stayed with a couple who were generosity itself--except that they were very Orthodox (Jewishly) and kept criticizing my kippah, tallit, tefillin, desire to be a Rabbi one day, etc. etc. etc.

The wedding itself was beautiful, if one could get past the Orthodoxy, but that was a big if.  At a Jewish wedding, there is a document called the ketubah that details the responsibilities that the couple has towards one another.  I know for a fact that at my parents' wedding, both were in the room while the ketubah was being signed.  Not so at "Emily's" wedding the other day.  At "Emily's" wedding, her groom was in the room watching the ketubah get signed; "Emily" was in a separate room greeting guests and looking pretty.

When I mentioned to people that the above scenario bothered me, I got the following sexist responses:

"It tells his responsibilities to her; it has nothing to do with her anyway, so why should she have to be in the room?"

"What does it matter? He gives it to her under the chuppah (wedding canopy); she'll get to see it later."

"...she has her job to do and he has his." (As someone to whom I told this story asked, since when is sitting there looking pretty a job?)

So I am pretty pissed off right now.  Orthodox Judaism pisses me off.