This past weekend I went to my former roommate "Emily's" wedding. I stayed with a couple who were generosity itself--except that they were very Orthodox (Jewishly) and kept criticizing my kippah, tallit, tefillin, desire to be a Rabbi one day, etc. etc. etc.
The wedding itself was beautiful, if one could get past the Orthodoxy, but that was a big if. At a Jewish wedding, there is a document called the ketubah that details the responsibilities that the couple has towards one another. I know for a fact that at my parents' wedding, both were in the room while the ketubah was being signed. Not so at "Emily's" wedding the other day. At "Emily's" wedding, her groom was in the room watching the ketubah get signed; "Emily" was in a separate room greeting guests and looking pretty.
When I mentioned to people that the above scenario bothered me, I got the following sexist responses:
"It tells his responsibilities to her; it has nothing to do with her anyway, so why should she have to be in the room?"
"What does it matter? He gives it to her under the chuppah (wedding canopy); she'll get to see it later."
"...she has her job to do and he has his." (As someone to whom I told this story asked, since when is sitting there looking pretty a job?)
So I am pretty pissed off right now. Orthodox Judaism pisses me off.
"Don't tell God how big your storm is; tell your storm how big your God is."
I believe in God.
I believe in God.
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- I am a bipolar, Jewish young adult (had my Hebrew birthday, the one I count, and turned 23 this past January) who also suffers from Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy. I love life and I live for my best friends: they are my purpose and my reason for trying so hard. I remain passionately devoted to those I love; I will not let my disorders make me totally self-centered. I like to read, write, and sew. My Rabbinical school plans did not work out, and I am now hoping to go into the field of Early Childhood Education. Please note: I am currently maintaining only Carried in His Hands. Enjoy!