Remember that boy in my high school graduating class? The one who was diagnosed with leukemia?
He died last night.
I cannot believe it. On an irrational level, I kind of want to see the body just for proof.
The traditional Jewish thing to say when somebody dies is "Baruch dayan ha'emet." Referring to God, it means "Blessed is the True Judge."
So baruch dayan ha'emet, God, and I hope it makes you happy. You are no True Judge in my mind.
In Judaism we wrestle with God. According to a book by Neil Gillman (The Way Into Encountering God in Judaism), God welcomed Abraham's challenge when God proposed His plan to wipe out Sodom and Gomorrah, and God welcomes our challenges today. What we are not permitted to do is disengage.
So I will continue my daily prayers, completion of mitzvot, and everything else. But never will I understand the death of an innocent 19 (I think) year old.
Baruch dayan ha'emet. It may not be true, but what else can I say?
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Sarah, I am deeply sorry to read this news.
ReplyDeleteHowever, though that phrase is kind of icky (non-religious chap speaks) some find it comforting to believe that God was protecting the boy from greater pain to come, introducing him to the afterlife, and using him as a tool to teach important lessons (for which he will be blessed).
My thoughts are very much with you, and your friend's family.
Whether or not he is in another place, he will be alive in your memories.